DON'T TRADE YOUR HAPPINESS

One of the most important keys to a better life is to keep yourself happy, rather than living to please everybody else. It's easy to take on a false sense of responsibility, thinkinf that your it is our job to keep everybody happy, to fix this person, to resue that person, or to sove another person's problem. It's a good thing that you want to help others, but don't throw away your happiness because you want to please others. You should not take responsibility for someone eles's poor choices. If you do, before long, that person will be controlling you and manipulating you.
The truth is, some people don't really want to be helped; they don't want to change. They like the attention their perpetual dilemmas bring to them. Sometimes, the best you can do for somebody like that is not to help them. Learn to understand that you are not responsible for everybody else's happiness. You don't need to be harsh or uncaring, but allowing them to always call you at odd hours of the day and night to dump their problems on you is not fair to yourself.
I am not talking about being selfish or self-centered, we should be givers. But there is a big diffrence between giving and allowing sombody to control you and make you feel guilty until you do what they want. If you are in a relationship and because your spouse choose to be sad does not mean you have to be sad, something is wrong and unbalanced. If you have been living to please everybody else, or constantly trying to fix everything, rid yourself of that false sense of responsibility. Yes reach out to others. Yes be kind and compassionate. But make sure that you are keeping yourself happy. After God, you are your first priority,followed by your family,relationship. Don't trade your happiness, you owe it to yourself.