BROKEN DREAMS.

 I remember when I was still a little kid and had little knowledge about what career was about, we all wanted to be doctors, lawyers and some priest. But moving away from those childish thoughts from the nursery class to the primary class down to high schools, our thoughts about what we wanted to become changed. Most of us discovered that we were intrested in science, while other's were intrested in arts and commercial classes.
 Those who loved science knew that it's not just only studying medicine to become a medical doctors but that medicine had a wide view since they were diffrent medical doctor's(the dentist, the radiographic dept,  the nurses.e.t.c)..Science was just so broad and most of us were fascinated about it and moved to pure science, while others moved to applied science and others to engineering. Not forgetting those that loved arts and commercial classes, they discovered that arts and commercial classes was not just about studying Law to become lawyer's but arts also had a wide range of career (accounting, banking and finance, history and international relation, linguistics. E.t.c)
 Right now am in college and those dreams of most youth's in the county where I live, are being broken by the educational system in my country, with the government  neglecting the educational sector. Not only that before I got into college,  I wanted to study computer science or mechanical engineering cause I had love for the both of them, but right now am studying physics. Not every one can move away from their dreams to something else related to it, but right now I love the course, cause I have the passion and will.
 I decided to chase a dream of being a physicist cause a dream which is not interpreted is like a letter which is not read. Most people in my country are chassing after broken dreams in college's cause they have no other alternative. But the question is, how can you chase a dream when there is no will, passion or something to motivate you? I went back to my high school days and looked at my report card at the end of each term and found out that I had a B+ in my physics and had an A+ in my finals I said to myself that it was a calling. My report card motivated me to have passion for the course.
  Education is about chasing one's dream and not that of someone else, cause that's the situation of most young people. If one don't build his/her dreams, someone else will hire you to build theirs. One dreams can be the answers for tomorrow's question. Cause nothing will have ever worked on earth if God never had a dream in mind to create earth and man.
 I choose not to live someone else's dream if it's not mine! I don't know about you guy's, but I will say we all ought to LIVE OUR DDREAMS.

10 TIPS TO SUCCESSFUL THINKING

First off, the word successful needs to be defined, since it is a broad term that is applied to numerous circumstances. So,
what does it mean? It means:
“Having attained wealth, position, honors, or the like” and “marked by a favorable outcome.”
So, thinking successfully must require that one be in a certain state of mind. It also should follow that the longer one is in a successful state of mind, the more
likely a favorable outcome will occur. Seems to make sense? Absolutely it does!
The mind is what generates all things that happen! If nobody, or better yet, if everybody rerouted themselves from a successful state of mind to a, for example, conventional one, then we
would no doubt degenerate as a human race noticeably fast. The world needs more successful thinkers! Hence, become one yourself!
10 TIPS TO SUCCESSFUL THINKING

1: Obtain tools that can help pilot you: In the right direction
In this case, regarding the initial dive into successful thinking, a set of knowledge based material such as books, articles derived from university lectures, and even
internet based information are solid choices to kick off with. You may, of course, have to read through material that may not interest you. But, sooner or
later you will find something thought-provoking and stick with it. Reading literature of interest triggers deep thought which in turn expands your mind, and an
expanded mind has room for added knowledge.

2: Think positive:
We all know that thinking positive is a good thing. But, why is it a good thing? Because evidently when we are thinking positively, we are actually accepting the realization of success, development, and promising results. Therefore, think
positive! It helps reduce stress, which acts like a barrier against mental awareness.

3: Contemplate:
Contemplation is another mind expander and a key component to successful thinking. Once you realize the capacity of your mind, your self- confidence increases. And when this happens, you are
in a positive state of mind and eager to feed it with more information, catapulting you to the next level.
4: Connect with other successful
thinkers: Now is the time to test your new founded speculations and rub elbows with other flourishing thinkers. Take a trip to your local library and pick out a book that interests you. Sit down and read the synopsis, then contemplate what you’ve read. Ask the librarian to help you locate
some literature and then strike up a conversation about something you’re familiar with. He or she is bound to expand intelligently and maybe teach you a thing or two. Better yet, rather than hit
the local library, go to a college/
university library. Your chances are at least ten fold in connecting with budding intellectuals who are more than likely keen on discussing almost any subject.
If you are in a positive state of mind, it will be that much easier to observe other entrenched thinkers playing out the same scenario as you are. It’s important to be
creative and expose yourself to fresh viewpoints and give other perceptions a chance. It’s all about learning.

5: Take the initiative: Don’t wait until you have the urge to think successfully; do it and make a habit
of it. It doesn’t have to feel good every time. Train yourself to think! It’s great exercise for the brain!
Here’s an idea: after breakfast, every morning, go back to your cozy bed and
start reading something philosophical. Before you start reading, make sure you
have your cell phone next you sounding
out calm ocean waves, the rain forest, or birds chirping. When it’s time to get
ready for work, get dressed with only deep philosophical thoughts in your mind. When you get to work; carry on mate!!

6: Take advantage of opportunities to: Think successful
Practically every day there exists a least a small window of opportunity to drift off into deep positive thought; whether it be
planning your next brainstorm training session, pondering the current economic crises, or how to cure world hunger. Jump
on every chance you get to think
successful! In no time you won’t even notice that you are imbedded in successful thinking.

7: Practice what you preach
Now that you have gained access to more of your brain’s capacity than before and now able to share it, it is advisable to actually believe in the concepts and ideas that you discuss, with supportive evidence, with those who you are surrounded by.  With evidence and
knowledge, you should be able craft interesting and believable theories of your own creation.

8: Reverberation: Like sound waves bouncing off walls and
echoing into your ears, the concepts that you confidently share should reverberate
back to you for instant evaluation, then reconstruction if necessary.

9: Back to basics: Everything that you have learned should be repeated habitually. Don’t get let up! Continue with your superior thinking habits. The key word here is habitual. Good habits can die fast, but not if you are realizing fruitful outcomes from it.
10: Know you’re a developed successful thinker: You have the tools. You are a positive thinker. You contemplate and are confident. You are part of a group of choice thinkers. You are resourceful and creative. You make good use of idle time. You believe in yourself. You learn from your own thoughts, and others…and you
have solid successful thinking habits. Know you are a successful thinker!!
When you’re a seasoned successful
thinker, you’ve reached a point where you are a step above the rest. You now see the big picture. Ideas that flow your way are easily linked together, even though they appear isolated to others. The
realization that everything is indeed connected has become a part of everything you do in life. When your mind is successful, everything you do will also
be successful. Like all leaders who see the world as completely connected, are leaders because they have been successful thinkers their whole life and have been connecting the pieces all along the way, and no doubt trained themselves with discipline and motivation.

WHY STAY IN AN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP?

This was never the topic i had i mind when i picked my phone. Watching a program on Ebonylife Tv called ScreenDivas, i was moved by what i saw and heard by most women who were victims of domestic violence. Kudos to Kate Hanshew,Uche Jumbo,Funke Akindele & Rita Dominic for bringing out their time and energy to be a voice for these women and also trying to produce an original movie on ill treatment of women in their marriages. Not forgeting Project Alert who rescued these women. Back to the topic; seriously why will someone want to inflict injury on someone else? Do they feel they are stronger or what?
  Most women have taken alot in their relationship and are still taking alot. I remember how powerful women are during the early days of our country, the likes of Queen Amina, Mama Magret Ekpo to that of the aba women riot ....Damn what happened to the works  they did and the puzzles they fixed? Women are the most beautiful creation by God, from the beauty on the surface, down to the beauty inside to the tenderness of their hearts as mothers. Why not move away from a violent relationship instead of letting it ruin the beauty within you.
  A relationship is meant to bring out the best in you and not the worst out of you.
  A relationship is meant to keep one refreshed and not to drain you.
  A relationship should be filled with respect and love not jealousy and envy.
  In a relationship, one should accept each others humaness and not let unforgiveness ruin your relationship. If you are about getting married or you are in a relationship and it lacks these basic things, have a re-think and redefine your relationship. If i were a lady i will go for a guy who respects me and not a guy who loves me.
  Violent relationships leads to mental,emotional & psychological breakdown of the victims and sometimes death. Why would some men decide to be wild and brutal animals when they move from normal relationship to marriage? Why do they choose to inflict such pain and agony in the lives of the women they claim to love but have no respect for them? What happend to the old love? I ask myself all these questions and i don't know where to get the answers. Even if she is rude, why not agree to disagree. A musician(rapper); said "life is a cruel wife, although she do you wrong, you got to treat her right". Maybe your attitude towards her  makes her to act rude. Even your kids will grow up to treat their wives the same way you treated their mother, cause all these go down into their sub-cutaneous mind and it all reflects through out their life time. Why not accept her the way she is instead of finding faults and waiting for a perfect wife, sorry bro you have to wait a life time.
  The Bible says be angry but don't let it lead you into sin. You get angry and beat your wife or your girlfriend up and you feel proud of yourself. Bro you are a big disgrace to yourself cause you have no self worth or respect for your wife or girlfriend. Go get your life back into its place and throw away those bad attitude of yours into the waste bin. Ladies please report any case of abuse or battering by your partner. ThankGOD they are laws in favour of women and also the human right law.
  Let me give you a break down of home violence and unhealthy relationship:
Domestic/dating violence (also known as intimate partner violence) is a pattern of
controlling behaviors that one partner uses to get power over the other. It includes:
any kind of physical violence or threat of
physical violence to get control
emotional or mental abuse, such as playing
mind games, making you feel crazy, or
constantly putting you down or criticizing you
Sexual abuse, including making you do
anything you don’t want to do, refusing to
have safe sex or making you feel badly about
yourself sexually
2. 85 percent of domestic violence victims are women.
3. One third of American women and one quarter of women worldwide will experience
domestic/dating violence in their lifetime.
4. An estimated 1.3 million women are victims of physical assault by an intimate partner
each year.
5. Only 25 percent of all physical assaults perpetuated by intimate partners are reported to
the police.
6. Females who are 20-24 years of age are at the greatest risk for of nonfatal intimate
partner violence.
7. Boys who witness domestic violence are twice as likely to abuse their own partners and
children when they become adults.
8. Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women – more than car accidents,
muggings, and rapes combined.
9. One half of all homeless women and children in the US are fleeing from domestic violence.
10. Every 9 seconds in the US a woman is assaulted or beaten.
11. In 70 to 80 percent of intimate partner homicides, no matter which partner was killed,
the man physically abused the woman before the murder.
Sources(www.dosomething.org and www.safehorizon.com). Don't waste your life and talents in an unhealthy relationship. Women deserves to be treated right!!!!