WHY STAY IN AN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP?

This was never the topic i had i mind when i picked my phone. Watching a program on Ebonylife Tv called ScreenDivas, i was moved by what i saw and heard by most women who were victims of domestic violence. Kudos to Kate Hanshew,Uche Jumbo,Funke Akindele & Rita Dominic for bringing out their time and energy to be a voice for these women and also trying to produce an original movie on ill treatment of women in their marriages. Not forgeting Project Alert who rescued these women. Back to the topic; seriously why will someone want to inflict injury on someone else? Do they feel they are stronger or what?
  Most women have taken alot in their relationship and are still taking alot. I remember how powerful women are during the early days of our country, the likes of Queen Amina, Mama Magret Ekpo to that of the aba women riot ....Damn what happened to the works  they did and the puzzles they fixed? Women are the most beautiful creation by God, from the beauty on the surface, down to the beauty inside to the tenderness of their hearts as mothers. Why not move away from a violent relationship instead of letting it ruin the beauty within you.
  A relationship is meant to bring out the best in you and not the worst out of you.
  A relationship is meant to keep one refreshed and not to drain you.
  A relationship should be filled with respect and love not jealousy and envy.
  In a relationship, one should accept each others humaness and not let unforgiveness ruin your relationship. If you are about getting married or you are in a relationship and it lacks these basic things, have a re-think and redefine your relationship. If i were a lady i will go for a guy who respects me and not a guy who loves me.
  Violent relationships leads to mental,emotional & psychological breakdown of the victims and sometimes death. Why would some men decide to be wild and brutal animals when they move from normal relationship to marriage? Why do they choose to inflict such pain and agony in the lives of the women they claim to love but have no respect for them? What happend to the old love? I ask myself all these questions and i don't know where to get the answers. Even if she is rude, why not agree to disagree. A musician(rapper); said "life is a cruel wife, although she do you wrong, you got to treat her right". Maybe your attitude towards her  makes her to act rude. Even your kids will grow up to treat their wives the same way you treated their mother, cause all these go down into their sub-cutaneous mind and it all reflects through out their life time. Why not accept her the way she is instead of finding faults and waiting for a perfect wife, sorry bro you have to wait a life time.
  The Bible says be angry but don't let it lead you into sin. You get angry and beat your wife or your girlfriend up and you feel proud of yourself. Bro you are a big disgrace to yourself cause you have no self worth or respect for your wife or girlfriend. Go get your life back into its place and throw away those bad attitude of yours into the waste bin. Ladies please report any case of abuse or battering by your partner. ThankGOD they are laws in favour of women and also the human right law.
  Let me give you a break down of home violence and unhealthy relationship:
Domestic/dating violence (also known as intimate partner violence) is a pattern of
controlling behaviors that one partner uses to get power over the other. It includes:
any kind of physical violence or threat of
physical violence to get control
emotional or mental abuse, such as playing
mind games, making you feel crazy, or
constantly putting you down or criticizing you
Sexual abuse, including making you do
anything you don’t want to do, refusing to
have safe sex or making you feel badly about
yourself sexually
2. 85 percent of domestic violence victims are women.
3. One third of American women and one quarter of women worldwide will experience
domestic/dating violence in their lifetime.
4. An estimated 1.3 million women are victims of physical assault by an intimate partner
each year.
5. Only 25 percent of all physical assaults perpetuated by intimate partners are reported to
the police.
6. Females who are 20-24 years of age are at the greatest risk for of nonfatal intimate
partner violence.
7. Boys who witness domestic violence are twice as likely to abuse their own partners and
children when they become adults.
8. Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women – more than car accidents,
muggings, and rapes combined.
9. One half of all homeless women and children in the US are fleeing from domestic violence.
10. Every 9 seconds in the US a woman is assaulted or beaten.
11. In 70 to 80 percent of intimate partner homicides, no matter which partner was killed,
the man physically abused the woman before the murder.
Sources(www.dosomething.org and www.safehorizon.com). Don't waste your life and talents in an unhealthy relationship. Women deserves to be treated right!!!!